Funerals

Planning a funeral can be an opportunity for a family to come together, to share an experience that can strengthen the bond between all its members.

If you are dealing with the death of someone close to you, or perhaps you might be preparing for the death of someone you care about, you have our heartfelt sympathy.

The funeral service you arrange for your loved one is the final tribute you can make to them.  It's a ceremony that carries great significance and brings with it many challenges, emotional, social and financial. 

You could well feel pressured to make hasty decisions but you should not do so.  Most funeral directors will lead you through the decisions you have to make but there is no need to rush them. 

And there is no need to rush the service.  The timing is really up to you.  Wait for those relatives and friends who want to attend but need to come from far afield. 

Take your time in planning a service that will pay a respectful and loving tribute to your loved one.

Think about what should be said, who should say it and what other elements should be emphasized that encompass the highlights of your loved one's life.  Think about whether you would like to display photos, have a dvd of favourite photos, play favourite music and display those items which symbolize your loved one's interests and favourite things.

Some commonly asked questions ...

What does the Celebrant do that's different?

For the Celebrant, every service is unique.  With your assistance the Celebrant will construct a personal eulogy which captures the personality and essence of your loved one.

How do I contact a Celebrant?

You can contact your Celebrant directly or through your Funeral Director.

How long is a Celebrant led funeral service?

Usually about half to three quarters of an hour.  If there are to be two services, ie, a service at a chapel and then a burial or cremation service, the original service will be about half an hour, and the burial or cremation service a much shorter time.

How long does the process take?

The Celebrant will spend some unhurried time with you to talk about the nature and character of your loved one, and also to learn the biographical details for inclusion in the service.  The Celebrant will then draft a service for your approval.  This could take several hours of the Celebrant's time and would usually result in a service of about half to three quarters of an hour's duration.

Who pays the Celebrant & what does it cost?

The Celebrant is usually paid through the Funeral Director, but you can pay the Celebrant directly if you wish. 

A service led by your Celebrant will celebrate and honour the life of your loved one and reflect your feelings and great sense of loss.    It is designed with your full input, from your own circumstances and feelings, and, if you wish, your own words.

This is a simple structure ...

Music

Your choice of music as mourners enter the chapel.

Introduction

A welcome, followed by some philosophical words about death and grief and what that means in people's lives.

Acknowledgement of the Bereaved

The chief mourners are mentioned here.

Life History

The life history takes the mourners through the highlights, challenges and achievements of your loved one, acknowledging the importance of the relationships they shared.

Tributes

These could be from old family friends and work friends, children or grandchildren.  

People are honoured to be asked to speak at a funeral service and it is up to you to invite their participation.  They do need some time to prepare their thoughts so don't leave it to the day to ask or you will be disappointed.

Reflection

A quiet time where a favourite piece of music or a DVD can be played.

A Reading or Prayer

Closing

The Celebrant will draw together the various  elements of the service and pay a finaltribute to your loved one.  This can include a final prayer or blessing.

Music

Final piece of music as coffin is lowered and mourners leave the chapel.